whom

> who and whom
who and whom cause problems. Who is the subject of a verb, as in "Who told you?", "It was you who told her" and "the girls who took part in the play". Whom is the object of a verb or preposition, as in "Whom did he tell?", "To whom did you speak?" and "the people from whom he stole". In modern usage whom is falling into disuse, especially in questions, except in formal contexts. Who is used instead even although it is ungrammatical, as in "Who did you speak to?" Whom should be retained when it is a relative pronoun, as in "the man whom you saw", "the person to whom he spoke" and "the girl to whom she gave the book".